Okay so this time I was beset upon by a roving gang of monkeys that staunchly forbid me to update my blog, why? Honestly, I have no idea because I don’t speak monkey. Grin.
Alright, alright, I have no excuses. After my last post, my motivation went *poof* (again) and I kept saying I would get back to it and kept prioritizing everything else. Or I would have a great idea as I drifted off to sleep, not make a note of it, and fail to recall the idea in the morning, giving myself one more reason to say “I’ll get to it later.”
So here I am posting on motivation and keeping myself accountable (again) and making a sincere effort to not let so much time accumulate between posts.
What helped me this time, supportive friends (again), and reminding myself that if I don’t make time for this, IT WILL NOT HAPPEN. I am the only one that is going to maintain my website, which cannot occur if I never give it time. So I sat down again at my computer gave myself permission to stare at an empty page willing inspiration to appear. I limited other distractions, no web surfing, no emailing, no looking at cat videos. I prioritized this blog, this aspect of my life, and when I did, well these words came out. They may not be the best words ever posted, yet they don’t have to be, for today it is enough that I sat down and did what I had been putting off for way too long.
And with that I am slowly getting motivation and determination back in alignment and am realizing that sometimes “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
I am a big fan of Project Runway and more recently of Under the Gunn; which just finished its first season. The attraction to these shows is multifaceted, partly because the level of creativity is so high, partly as I see some of the challenges as a metaphor for daily life (but that’s another blog), and in large part due to Tim Gunn. He serves as a mentor and displays many admirable traits, including direct honest communication that is compassionate, and an unwavering belief in people’s abilities. Perhaps what I love most of all is his catch phrase “Make it work,” on the shows the phrase is referring to the outfits the designers are creating. However I started thinking about this lovely phrase and realized it really can pertain to our day to day lives. As a coach I observe that people don’t give themselves the space to “make it work,” they tell themselves things like “make it perfect” or “do it right the first time.” If more often we just encouraged ourselves and others to simply “make it work” no matter what or how that looks, we might be more willing to try things. I think “make it work” is about being okay with the possibility of making a mistake, of creating something not “perfect.” Overall “make it work” is about showing up, being seen and putting oneself out there. It is so simple, compassionate, elegant, and yes hard. Read More >
This is a time of year when lots of people are thinking of goals, resolutions and making changes. It is a positive thing to think about turning over a “new leaf” with the New Year and doing something positive for yourself; whether that be ending an old negative habit, incorporating a new positive habit or working towards some larger life goal. The difficult thing about this time of the year is that making changes has been built-up and hyped and maybe we even feel we “should” make changes. As a result we often make resolutions to change a bunch of things and think we have to start them all and make huge progress right away. I recently read an article that summed up this idea, suggesting that if we resolve to eat no cookies for the entire month of January we will be eating a bag of cookies by two pm. Okay that might be an exaggeration however that is often what ends up happening. The things we resolve to do are either so big or so extreme that we set ourselves up for inevitable failure, and we don’t make an allowance for mistakes or set backs in our resolutions. When we hit that inevitable set back or mistake we feel as though we have “failed.” When we feel we have failed we often label our efforts or worse ourselves as “failures” which ends up being self defeating causing us to abandon our goals all together. Well that doesn’t work! Read More >
On a recent run I was listening to one of my electronic dance music playlists…(it is my thing when I run) when Daft Punk’s “Get Lucky” started playing, sounds really deep and profound right? Well it was, maybe because I was in the flow and really able to think about some of the lyrics, two verses stood out for me starting with this one:
Like the legend of the phoenix
All ends with beginnings
What keeps the planet spinning
The force from the beginning
It got me to thinking, things, actually everything does end with beginnings and begin with endings, that cycle of beginnings and endings is the force that keeps us “spinning” it is life. Our lives began when our parents’ lives as they knew it ended. Our mornings begin when our sleep ends, our evening begins when our day ends. Read More >